Move on, hunny!
Some girls really need to hear this sometimes.
my kind of bathroom graffiti.
Spotted: Bathroom stall in Chicago’s Abbey Pub.
This photo is pretty self-explanatory. Too many people are caught up in detrimental relationships, staying because they’re used to it, comfortable, or afraid to MOVE ON.
Chickies: life’s too short.
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A few months back, I was hanging out in Wicker Park with my friends Roadie, Danny and Phil. I’ve known these guys forever–and Phil and I have been friends since I was all of 16 years old. He’s been introduced to pretty much all the boys I’ve dated over the past seven years, and that night he did HILARIOUS impressions of all the dorks. We were all kinda drunk, but his impersonations were SPOT ON–mannerisms, facial expressions, gestures, voices, everything. It was toooo funny.
All jokes aside, though, after he made fun of some of the weirdos I’ve been involved with, he told me later, “I was a little buzzed; I’m sure they are nice. BUT you absolutely deserve to be with somebody who knows and appreciates what he’s got.”
Touche.
Last winter I was at a suburban bar with my girl Sara, and inside the bathroom stall was a poster for MGD 64 that said, “Boyfriends lie.” And then something to the effect of “But 64-calorie Miller Genuine Draft doesn’t.”
Lame as it sounds, that poster “spoke” to me, loud and clear. I was facing irreparable issues with the dude I was seeing at the time; I knew he was lying about things, and I knew it could never be salvaged. The next day, we broke up. And it was one of the best things that have ever happened in my life.
And last night when I saw that graffiti scrawled on the inside of the stall, I was SO thankful that those words, “If he’s not treating you right, and you know you can do better…MOVE ON, hunny” did not apply to me at this present juncture. As Phil had so wisely–and simply–put it: you have to be with someone who realizes your value. It’s a good feeling to not be taken for granted.
And if you’re reading this and you’re not…move on. It’s truly as simple as that.
Tags: Abbey Pub, bathrooms, boyfriends, graffiti, MGD, photographs, relationships
Oh boy Charlotte, you have struck a nerve. Of course, all my nerves are set to be struck lately.
I am the first to say that “simple is best”. But after my experience these past 6 months plus, I have a new respect for women who move on. Sounds easy doesn’t it. I now suspect that the reason someone stays in a crap relationship has nothing to do with “him”.
To add to Phil’s wise statement: You have to be with someone who realizes your value……and that someone has to start with YOU.
I couldn’t agree more.
It is a very simple concept in theory, but for many women, translating the concept into practice is quite difficult.
It does start with you. Women have to take responsibility for their actions and their lives. All the crazy relationship dramz that I’ve experienced over the years happened because I allowed it to happen. In some cases, however, I was definitely able to curb it and end things before they became too insane.
Never doubt bathroom graffiti wisdom…especially when it is in an epic form that dominates four feet of the crapper.
I feel like I need more philosophy when I am on the bowl.
I can picture Phil now.. the images in my head are hilarious!